Divorce, probably the one of the most sensitive topics in modern Christian circles.
Everyone has been exposed to teaching on devorce. It is a very relevant topic in our churches. Some studies show that there are as many marriages that end in devorce inside the church as outside. [However, a note on those statistics...they do not take into consideration individuals with multiple marriages. One person may account for 3 of the numbers being calculated. The statistics are based on marriages, not people. I would have to believe that people who have been devorced would be lower in the church.]
So, is there any reason for a believing couple to end their marriage? Are there any loopholes that God gives for marriages to end in devorce. Does he ever say, “Even though I don’t like it, under this circumstance, it would be ok.”? Well, let’s think. While there is no way this simple little blog is going to exhaust the topic, let us address the common “escape clause” for divorce, adultery.
For selected readings on this issue, see the passages surrounding these verses: Matt 5.27-32; Matt 19.3; Mark 10.2; I Cor 7.
In most of these cases the question was posed to Christ as a way of tripping him up. That should tell us something to begin with. The question of whether or not abandonment is grounds for devorce arrises in I Cor 7, but even there it would seem that devorce and remarriage are not condoned, only physical seperation. Also, Paul is quite clear that he is not speaking for God in those few verses, which opens it back up for conversation.
When posed the question of devorce in Mark, Christ replies with the teaching from Genesis that “they twain shall be one flesh”, and if they are one, how can they truly be seperated. No more can my own body be dismembered and remain wholly functional, than can a marriage.
So, what about adultery…the big question. When understood in the Jewis context of the scripture, it becomes clear that Christ never condones devorce because of adultery. Acutally, that is not even what he says, those are words we put into his mouth. Let’s take his teaching during the sermon on the mount as out text for this conversation.
“It hath been said Whoseoever shall put away his wife, let him give her a writing of divorcement: but I say unto you, that whosoever shall put away his wife, saving for the cause of fornication, causeth her to commit adultery: and whosoever shall marry her that is divorced committeth adultery.” (Matt 5.31-32)
It would almost seem as though Christ is quite clear that divorce is wrong except when adultery is involved, cheating on the part of the spouse. That is not the case. We must take into account each and every word of Scripture. Here, Christ says the only cause the allows divorce is “fornication”, a completely different word that the one he uses at the end of this same sentence “adultery”.
Why the different words? If we can take off our 21st century American glasses for a minute and look at the Bible from the perspective of the reader, a Jewis person in these days would have understood the implications of betrothal differently than Americans do today. To be enganged in those days, was to be legally bound to the person. In order to break off an engagement, you would “divorce” that person. Christ was basically saying the only kind of devorce that was acceptable was the “pre-conception” devorce that was brought about by impure actions. The word “forincation” carries the connotation of basic sexual impurity, and is the same root word from which we get our english “pornography”.
For further argument consider this: We see that Christ was adament that divorce thew the couple into the lap of sin, and he was anti devorce in every way. Yet in Matt 1.18-19 Joseph is preparing to divorce Marry when she was pregnant with Jesus (assuming foul play) and the Bible says he was “just” in that situation. How? Because their had been no conception, no becoming one flesh between the two of them. It is interresting here to also consider the OT story of Hosea…
So, Christ is never ok with Divorce. At best we may be able to say that for the deserted to remain unmarried is the best choice they have. Though this may sound narrow minded, think about the greater picture at stake here. Check out Eph 5. See all the pictures and comparisons between the husband and wife with Christ and the church. Imagine if God ever endorsed divorce, for ANY reason. We would lose much certainty about eternal security in our salvation. If the husband had provisions to divorce the unfaithful wife, then could Christ “divorce” or “put away” an unfaithful church? And if he could, would any of us still be in his bride? Every time we fall to tempations of the flesh, or world, or anything; each time we worship anything other than Christ; each time we are unfaithful to our Savior, we are subject to rejection and banishment as we are put away by the Great Groom. Thank God he is not that way. Praise God that he didn’t make any grounds for Devorce. That he would even go so far as to make provisions that when one deserted, and left off from their true spouse, that spouse was to remain as they were and not re-marry. How he puts up with our unfaithfulness is beyond me, and should cause us to strive for faithfulness to him, but that grace of remaining faithful to us, even when we are not faithful to him should cause us to all the more. How amazing is our Lord!
Conclusion: If provision was ever made for divorce, our eternal security would be thrown into a downward spiral of doubt. God did not make provision for such activity, because there is no place for it between His Son and His church.
Amen.